Here are some of the psychopathic character flaws that you should be aware of:
“Laws are Relative.”
Psychopaths feel as though they are above the law, and that rules do not apply to them. Nothing is black-and-white, right-or-wrong, good-or-bad; there is always a loophole or series of circumstances that keep them exempt from the fear of prosecution that a normal person might have.
In contrast, even though rules and laws don’t apply to them; they fully expect anyone else to be held to the highest standards of accountability. They often even manipulate the legal and/or social systems that may be available to further victimize others.
“Double standard? What’s that supposed to mean?”
You will notice blatant inconsistencies and it will be clear that while you are held to a certain standard of expectations and performance, they are free from such bondage. For instance, you are not allowed to spend too much quality time with your friends and/or family. If you do, you must check in regularly with status reports and arrive home at a specific time. While they are free to disappear without notice and are not required to accurately report their activities (and if you push for an explanation, they will spin a yarn that is so complicated and outlandish, that you’d rather just forget it and take a nap). And you best not accuse them, or you’ll suffer their barrage of how crazy you are, how you need to get a grip on reality or may be headed for the insane asylum.
“My ex was insane.”
Psychopaths talk about their exes with a great deal of disrespect and often claim that they were victimized by their exes. Beware, because when they are done with you, these are the very stories that will be proliferated about you.
Strangely enough, if there is some life left in the ex- that they can benefit from… in contrast to the scathing reports of how awful the ex is (or was) to them, they will continue to meet and interact (possibly intimately) with them.
“I am repeatedly victimized or wrongfully accused or attacked.”
Playing on your empathy for the underdog, they endear you to them eliciting pity and your nurturing nature to support someone who is victimized or falsely accused. They report that they are on the brink, and just can’t stand the constant drama, yet they are actually the source of the drama and you are likely to be visited by an inordinately high level of drama by being sucked into the psychopath’s web. They just can’t deal with the constant negativity that is put on them, yet they dish it out to you and yours in spades.
“Nobody understands me.”
That’s because if they are predatory, they are also likely to be narcissistic. It is impossible to truly relate to someone who sees themselves as the single superior human in the sphere of their existence. They are condescending, seeing anyone else that they come into contact with as lesser beings, possessions, servants, or tools.
They will disregard any concerns that you might have, be quick to laugh off anything you might say, claiming that you are being silly, ridiculous, or possibly struggling with your sense of sanity. You may notice that they consider any naysayer in their life a crazy, whacko, or in need of being removed from society altogether.
“Everyone is constantly challenging me.”
Well, that’s because psychopaths who are highly predatory in nature lie all the time and are often considered pathological liars, which also means that they are quick to produce excuses, false flags/elaborate stories, or quick to blame someone or anything else. The act of lying is actually their comfort zone, and they would rather lie – even if it serves no purpose whatsoever – than to admit some responsibility or simply tell the truth. They will vehemently defend their innocence in any given situation or circumstance.
Deception is the fulfillment of their passion and purpose in this life.
“Mess with me, and you’ll be sorry.”
Anyone who stands up to the psychopathic predator is in for their relentless wrath. If you confront them, their response will be so abusive and such an extreme show of strength, that you quickly learn the lesson, not to challenge them again, “or else.”
“It wasn’t me.”
Psychopaths have no accountability, whatsoever. Nothing is ever their fault and someone else is always handy to blame, some underhanded attempt to defraud him/her and drive a wedge in between you and them by casting doubt. It was someone else, or you’re just imagining things. “Seeing ghosts,” one psychopath accused his victim. Another looked me right in the eye and said, “It wasn’t me.” Even with videographic proof, the psychopath explained, “It’s an elaborate attempt to set me up. They hire someone who looked like me, sounded like me, wore my clothes in my house, and acted out this whole routine for the cameras in an attempt to frame me.” And they are so convincing, one cannot help but wonder if there is doubt. (That’s why many of them are able to talk their way out of a court trial.)
Psychopaths are often skilled at lying and manipulating others to get what they want. Some common excuses they may use to deny accusations include:
- Denial: They may simply deny that they did anything wrong or that they are responsible for their actions.
- Blaming others: They may shift the blame onto someone else, often the victim or someone else who is not present to defend themselves.
- Minimizing: They may downplay the seriousness of their behavior or make excuses for it, such as saying that they were just joking or that everyone else does it.
- Gaslighting: They may try to make the victim doubt their own perceptions or memory of events, making it more difficult for the victim to challenge their lies.
Psychopaths are often very convincing in their lies because they are skilled at reading others and identifying what will make them believe their version of events. They may also be charismatic and charming, which can make it difficult for others to see through their lies.
One way to catch a psychopath in a lie is to document evidence of their behavior, such as emails or text messages, and then confront them with this evidence. It’s important to do this in a safe and controlled environment, such as with the assistance of a therapist or other trained professional. It’s also important to be prepared for the possibility that the psychopath may become angry or violent in response to being confronted.
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